It is common for everyone to feel dejected and completely isolated at some point in life. Depression and hopelessness get stuck as glue and it feels like it’s never-ending. The only way out is that somehow you could find a ray of hope. It is very important that you stay resilient and gather all your strength to lift up your spirits.
We would try to help you get started with some of the ways which most people have suggested to be valid in similar situations. Be mindful that your feelings are to be embraced throughout your process of getting over the slump.
Stay In The Present
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.”
It may sound simple but it can be very frustrating. Focusing on the present can be a very challenging task especially when your life takes an unexpected turn for which you weren’t ready. The truth is the past cannot be changed and the future is unknown, yet everyone tends to linger on either one of them.
You may easily get yourself trapped in the worries of the future or the pains of the past. As a result, the present day in which you’re living is going away. Staying in the present is simply focusing on today – the things you have planned for the day, the people you are meeting, the conversations you are having, the food that you are eating and the body you’re living in.
Mind exercises and meditation are great ways to help you stay in the present and lift up your spirits. Try taking a walk, spend time with yourself in quiet reflection upon your life. You can also try some applications like The Mindfulness App, Calm or Headspace which can guide you through the process of meditation.
Set yourself a goal
“Goals transform a random walk into a chase.”
When you are broken, it doesn’t mean that you have to stop living altogether. Try recollecting all the goals you used to have for yourself: What were they? Did you have some specific things you wanted to achieve or accomplish? Were there places you wanted to go? Any hobbies you wanted to pursue? New cuisines you wanted to try?
Goals are an essential part of human life because it gives life a meaning, a path to follow. Set yourself a goal and follow through. And when you achieve that goal, make sure you already have a new goal set for yourself. Often the little achievements give us immense joy and motivation to go above and beyond.
Little things matter
Often when the most important things in our lives are falling apart, little things keep us going in a way we never expected them. Agree or not, life is really about small things. In the end, when people have achieved it all, they want to live with simple things surrounding them. There are moments in life that ground you and help you focus on the good ‘humane’ things.
A cup of coffee, a funny conversation with a dear friend or taking a walk in the early morning with your partner can have a huge effect on your mood.
Also, actively practicing gratitude helps a lot in improving physical and psychological health. Be thankful for your meal. Write down things you are grateful for. Tell people what you appreciate about them. Show gratitude towards yourself, that’s important too. Studies have shown that being thankful more often can reduce your negative emotions.
The single most important ability of people is to able to communicate effectively. If you have people who can be real with you at this moment, make sure you reach out to them and share your struggles and how you feel about it. If you could not find such people around you, it is better to consult a psychiatrist.
Good communication can really be liberating and can lift up your spirits as you let all the negativity out. Often people have the solutions you are looking for.
REFERENCES & RESOURCES
- The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness
- Just How Do Affirmations Work?
- Words of Gratitude for Mind, Body and Soul